People ask whether marriage and education can go hand in hand or not. What is its success and failure rate? Would parents support this case if their sons or daughters made this decision? How do the couple balance their marriage and study together?
We met Moataz Al-Sayed, a medical student in Turkey, and his wife, Noor Al-Huda Al-Abdullah, who is also a pharmacy student in Turkey. They explained in detail their experience.
Moataz says:
“My wife and I got married about a year and a half ago. I study Medicine and my wife is a pharmacy student. We got engaged at first when I was about to finish my first year of school in medical school, when at the time. My wife was finishing the preparatory year for language at that time, and this was during the spread of the Covid-19 epidemic. I finished my second year of school in college, and we got married.”
Did your parents object to your marriage, or were they fine with it?
“We received a lot of support for our intention of marriage from my family. Only my wife’s family had some concerns since I am a student and how would I be able to secure our living. With enough assurance and trust, we were able to get married.”
What are the difficulties that a student faces in the marriage during the study?
“Parents’ acceptance is an issue that must be taken into consideration as most of the time, they might not accept it. I thank God in this regard that we have always found understanding, and we did not ask for high costs in the wedding and other things in order to save money.”
The next difficulty was the financial aspect. We both had to give up a higher quality of life to care for our parents, which was not a problem at all. In the summer months, my wife and I work to secure the financial payments and living costs that we will need in our school year. On our part, we try to coordinate everything so that the priority is to concentrate on studying.
How do you divide the tasks between you?
Each of us cares about the things we are best at. My wife, for example, takes care of everything related to hygiene. I lend my energy to arranging and often cooking, bringing necessities and other things. If either one of us has an exam, the pressure of work falls onto the other person, however, we somehow manage.
Do you think that marriage at the undergraduate level has advantages? What are they?
Emotional stability with an element of love between the two parties is extremely important. Availability of a supportive partner for you in life, and of course the support of parents for the experience, all of these are positive aspects, that make you a better person. Marriage brings maturity and challenges you as a person to be more responsible.
Do you advise students to marry while studying?
If the conditions are met, then it is possible. Firstly, choose the right person, and secondly, ensure a certain, relatively good standard of living. Of course, it is important to achieve the support of the parents as well. All in all, I advise proper planning.
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